Toxic Relationships Among Campus Student's

 A toxic relationship can generally be described as a relationship where your well being is threatened in some way either emotionally, psychological or physically This type of relationships makes you feel like unsupported, misunderstood,demeaned or attacked and they usually tend to make you feel worse rather than better.Toxic relationship can exist in just about any context ranging from playground, workmates, neighbours and nowadays most commonly and severely affected are our students in Colleges and universities.

Even though the primary reason for our students enrolling in universities is to achieve necessary education and degrees required to build a career or to gain knowledge and enhance social status,the issue of developing relationship either friendly or Love affairs is inevitable 

From my observation,peer pressure and Sexual Desire is all that drives many into dating with some people having more than  one partner and even some dating sponsor's whom they believe are in a position to meet their financial needs while in school.Its due to this desires that have seen many fall trap to toxic relationship.

Even though one could argue that God created relationship to be a taste of heaven,for us to love, trust,hope, giggle explore and fall passionately in love,in most Campus cases the rush to jump into relationship for pleasure and fun has proven to be very bad.In my recent encounter with students from Tum concerning this topic,I was able to note the following causes that majorly lead to toxic relationships.

1.Reactive emotions where some partners have impulse control and emotional control issues

2.Trauma where bad thing's happened to their lives that shape the way they deal with other event's

3.Shame and guilty

4.Fear of abandonment and rejection

5.Low self esteem

6.Unhealthy coping where some people grew up in home where abuse was normal so they don't know what healthy behaviour is.

Considering such factor's,,I also researched ways of ending such toxic relationship including

1.Understanding your dysfunction

2.understanding and identifying dysfunction in others

3.Learn to love with boundaries

4.Identify who is and isn't for you.

I strongly believe that relationship were never intended to be toxic,just like I also believe that if we take the time to heal our own dysfunction,we will choose better partners and friends to relate with.